Vaginismus is a condition where involuntary pelvic floor muscle contractions make vaginal penetration difficult or impossible. This can occur during sexual intercourse, tampon insertion, or gynecological exams. While frustrating, vaginismus is treatable with a combination of physical and psychological approaches.
There are two main types of vaginismus: primary and secondary. Primary vaginismus refers to cases where penetration has never been possible, often discovered during puberty or early adulthood.
Secondary vaginismus develops after a period of successful penetration, and can occur mid to late adulthood due to childbirth, menopause, pelvic surgery, or trauma.
The exact cause of vaginismus is unknown, but it’s likely a combination of physical and psychological factors. Some women may have an overactive pelvic floor due to heightened nervous system sensitivity. Fear of pain, penetration, childbirth, or gynecological exams can also contribute. Cultural or religious beliefs may also play a role.
If you suspect you have vaginismus, a gynecologist can diagnose the condition through a pelvic exam. The doctor will discuss your concerns beforehand and may use a mirror, q-tip, or fingers during the exam to assess the level of muscle contraction. The severity of vaginismus will then be graded to determine the best course of treatment.
Treatment for vaginismus typically involves a multi-disciplinary approach. Sex therapists can help address any underlying anxieties or fears associated with penetration. Relaxation techniques like yoga nidra meditation can help reduce overall tension and promote pelvic floor relaxation.
Another treatment option is dilator therapy. This involves using medical-grade dilators, which come in various sizes. By gradually inserting larger dilators over time, the pelvic floor muscles learn to relax and accommodate penetration. Sex therapists can also guide you through the process of dilator therapy and address any anxieties that may arise.
In some cases, depending on the severity, a combination of therapy, relaxation techniques, and dilator therapy may be recommended. With patience and persistence, most women with vaginismus can overcome the condition and achieve comfortable vaginal penetration.
Remember, vaginismus is not uncommon and there is no shame in seeking help. Talking to your doctor and a sex therapist can empower you to understand and manage the condition, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling sexual life.
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